Pitchy wrote:Well fellas here`s one for your advice.
My dad lives 20 miles from us and hasn`t came to our house or called in that amount of time.
He divorced my mother in 77 and us kids, never came too my mothers funeral when she passed in 2001.
I don`t believe i`m going to his funeral and i`m sure i`ll be made the bad person for it but my heart ain`t in it.
The most i can muster up is, Dad i forgive you and i`m sorry for the wrongs i did against you and i`ve been praying that you found the Lord.
RIP Dad.
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Well, since you asked for my $0.02, I will offer up....
Regardless of how the two of you ended it, he was still your father. You would not be here, were it not for him and your mom.
I hate to see you carry around the baggage tied to not paying your respects, even if the only respects are to acknowledge him as a patriarch.
Speaking as a father, no matter how strained the relationship is, you are still his son and that carries with it an inherent connection that cannot be fully severed, on either end.
I speak from the heart on this. My parents divorced when I was 1 1/2 and it was war until I was 18. My dad can be a real humdinger of a knucklehead and a pathological liar (which I cannot understand), but outside of that, I took some very good things from him, that I may not have otherwise.
Forgive your dad and yourself. Go tell him good-bye and I pray he was at peace with the Lord.
My condolences,
John